YOU’RE NOT MAKING YOUR OWN PLANS OFTEN ENOUGH
It’s one of the best parts of being a couple: You always have built-in plans. But that doesn’t mean you should let every other social aspect of your life fall by the wayside. Going out solo is healthy and the easiest way to give each other space and nurture your own interests, too.
YOU’RE EXPECTING HIM TO READ YOUR MIND
It’s a tough relationship reality check, but as much as you want your spouse to know what you’re thinking at every moment, he doesn’t unless you’re direct. Try it once (say, “hey, I actually do need your help making dinner tonight”) and it’s like a communication block has been lifted. What’s that? Oh, right: The sound of burgers sizzling.
YOU ALWAYS PRIORITIZE YOUR PHONE
We get it, Instagram (or email or the group text message chain with your BFFs) is addictive. But only in rare cases should it take priority over the conversation you’re having with your spouse IRL. Put it on silent—or away if you still feel distracted by the hypnotic blue glow. All those photos and messages will still be there when you have some downtime.
YOU DON’T RECOGNIZE WHEN IT’S TIME TO LISTEN VS. TIME TO GIVE ADVICE
It can be tricky to know when someone needs a listening ear versus a suggestion of next steps—and for some reason a lot of women tend to be a sounding board for friends and an advice-dispenser for husbands. But if your spouse has a bad day, resist the urge to problem-solve, and instead bust out your best-ever listening skills as he vents. He’ll let you know when he’s ready for a plan of action—but for now he really just wants to complain and know you have his back.
YOU NEVER SAY “HI” OR “GOODBYE”
Your day is so busy—there’s kids and homework and work email and as soon as your feet hit the ground, it feels like you’re off and running. But something as simple as saying “hi” and “goodbye” (or “please” and “thank you”) is like a thoughtful acknowledgment of each other’s presence. And FYI, it counts for a lot.
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