Fifty Shades fever is set to sweep Britain again this February, when the third film in the franchise will hit our cinema screens.
E. L. James’ books have brought kink into the mainstream, with many getting more experimental in the bedroom.
Trying out BDSM for the first time can be daunting, but it could be just what you need to spice up your sex life.
Thankfully, we’ve got some simple ways you can test out the sex trend yourself without feeling embarrassed or awkward.
Professional dominatrix Eliza-Lou exclusively revealed how to play with power in the bedroom – here are the insider tips she revealed to the Daily Star Online.
1. Talk to your partner
When exploring different ways to get sexual pleasure, it’s important to discuss your boundaries.
Don’t feel embarrassed about talking through plans and consent with your partner.
This is essential for making your bedroom a safe place.
2. Be open-minded
When it comes to fantasies, everyone is different.
What may feel completely normal to one couple may be unthinkable to another.
Eliza advises that you should “never think of anything as weird” because “everyone’s got their own way of doing things”.
She added: “The longer you do it, the less weird it all feels”.
3. Try using a blindfold
When it comes to being sexually dominant, it can be difficult to get into character.
If you’re feeling self-conscious about being judged by your partner, try working a blindfold into your routine.
Eliza explains: “If you blindfold your partner, you’ll get a bit more confidence already.
“Cutting off their eyesight helps to heighten their senses as well and will make things more enjoyable.”
4. Be confident
The sexier you feel, the easier it will be to command power in the bedroom.
Do things that make you feel good in yourself – this could involve buying new undies or doing your makeup and hair.
Eliza advises: “If you feel pretty then it gets you a bit of extra confidence.”
“Everyone has their insecurities – I mean, I’ve had a child so there’s things about my body that I’m not always comfortable with.
“So do everything you can to make yourself feel confident.”
5. Keep it varied
BDSM isn’t all about getting physical.
While some couples feel stimulated by getting rough between the sheets, this isn’t the only way to get pleasure.
Dirty talk and roleplaying are other ways to assert your dominance in the bedroom.
Eliza said: “It’s not all about pain – that’s what most people think that it’s just torturing.
“Some people like that, but not everyone is into that.”
