We’re far more open to being chatted up at Christmas – there’s a party every night, we’re in a good mood, about to have some time off and feeling reflective.
For this is the season for Love Actually and other soppy Christmas schmaltz.
Strike while the iron’s hot with these top tips: If you fancy someone, mirror their body language.
It’s the single most effective flirting tool at your disposal.
By matching or imitating their movements you’re subconsciously telling them you are like them and on the same level.
Don’t mimic, mirror the mood.
They lean forward, you lean forward; they put their hands on the table, you put yours there.
Don’t look away if someone else joins the conversation.
Instead, lock eyes with the person you like and keep them there, even when they’ve finished talking or another person starts.
When you eventually do drag your eyes away (three or four seconds later), do it slowly and reluctantly.
This is something that’s simple to do, intensely flattering and if done well, will take their breath away.
Seduce her by looking at her mouth a lot while imagining what it would be like to kiss her.
Lend her your coat or sweater.
It’s a protective, sexy gesture that says: “I’m committing to hanging around to get that back again.”
Something that has been close to your skin is now close to hers. Give her a compliment that’s entirely individual: “You have beautiful eyes” is nice but hardly memorable.
“Your eyes are the most vivid shade of blue I’ve ever seen” is.
Seduce him through subconscious teases.
Cross one arm loosely across your waist and support the elbow of the other arm by cupping it in your hand.
Now lift the supported arm until your fingers touch your chest then stroke your collarbone lightly.
Maintain eye contact and let your hand rest there when you’re finished.
This subtly draws attention to your breasts and lets him know you’re interested in more without coming on too strong or being blatant.
Try putting something in your mouth: a straw, the end of your glasses, (if you’re brave) your finger.
Putting any object against our lips makes him imagine kissing you – and other things! Make pheromones work for you.
Wear layers of cotton clothes (cotton breathes better and doesn’t smell) so you can peel off the minute you feel hot. Clothing traps pheromones and taking them off wafts a concentrated dose of your individual scent into their direction.
Make that first kiss memorable. Start by kissing with your mouth closed, keeping the pressure soft and gentle.
Make the kisses a little harder then part your lips slightly to let the chemicals communicate.
How warm is their breath, lips and tongue?
If they’re aroused, everything should feel nicely heated up.
Now’s the time to gently bite their bottom lip or introduce some tongue action.
If, instead, everything’s cool or cold, you might be turned on but they’re definitely not!
