In the movies, shower sex is almost always depicted as being both sexy and easy. The reality, however, can be quite different.
For example, it quickly becomes clear when you’re in a standing position that body parts can’t be lined up with the same ease as when you’re horizontal. Then there’s the irony of sex in the shower feeling dry, as well as the clear and present danger of losing your footing and one or both of you getting hurt.
The good news is that, with a little forethought, shower sex can be as good as we all want it to be. Below are several tips that can help turn shower sex from tricky to tremendous.
1 Gear Up
While you don’t necessarily need any gear to pull off mind blowing shower sex, enterprising minds at Sportsheets have devised a range of handy tools to mitigate against some of the things that can get in the way of a soapy and sultry bathroom experience. These include a sex-enhancing foot rests and hand grips that stick to a tiled wall with a suction cup and purport to enable more vigorous, varied positions. They’ve also some up with a vibrating mesh sponge for some good clean fun, wrist restraints that adhere to the wall or the sides of your tub and silicone anal shower beads for when you want to really kick things up a notch…or nine.
2 Give Yourself Plenty Of Time
For many of us, a shower is simply part of our daily routine and we’re in and out with a minimum of fuss. While there’s nothing stopping you from having a wild quickie, sex therapist Amy Levine suggests spending some quality time in there. “Shower sex is an easy way to experience steamy sex,” she says and I think she means that both literally and figuratively.
3 Set The Mood In The Bathroom
Bright lights, tiled walls, lotions, potions, and medications strewn all over the surfaces. Bathrooms aren’t always the most atmospheric of spaces. Set yourself up for successful shower sex by taking a moment to make your bathroom more conducive to sexytime. Start by organizing your cabinets, making space so that your countertop and sink area is tidy, uncluttered, and free of unsightly toothpaste barnacles. Then, put a few candles on that countertop. If you usually like to get it on to music, get yourself a bluetooth shower speaker that affixes to the wall with a suction cup, and, in no time at all, you will have transformed your bathroom from a place in which you get ready to a place in which you get busy.
4 Put On A Show
Provided you’ve given yourself plenty of time for shower play, take the opportunity to spread out the fun. If you’re first in, treat your partner to the arresting sight of you soaping up your naked body by candlelight before inviting them to join you, building the anticipation and laying the groundwork for an intense session.
5 Hit The Head
For many women, the detachable showerhead is a trusty masturbatory companion. Taking a shower together enables women to show their male partners how it’s done and add yet another element to the show.
6 Use The Mirror
Just because you’re both in the shower doesn’t mean that the show has to end. Try and position yourselves so that you can watch yourself as you glide your soapy bodies together.
7 Get Orally Fixated
“Some people–men and women–are really self conscious about their scent,” explains Levine. She adds that sex in the shower, particularly oral sex, can be helpful for people who feel sadly self-conscious, getting them out of their heads. “If you’re no longer concerned about how you smell or taste, you can live in the moment and concentrate on pleasure,” she says.
8 Get Slap Happy
Not everyone likes having their rear slapped during sex play, but if your partner has expressed a fondness for spanking and indicted the intensity with which he or she likes it delivered, taking it into the shower can be fun: the soapy wetness will both evoke a different, more stinging sensation, and create a more satisfying sound as it bounces off the tiled interior of your shower. “Spanking for some is a fun way to explore their kinky side,” says Levine. “In the shower it can create more of a sting that’s a turn on to some to others but start slow: they just may want to smack you back.”
9 Up Against The Wall
When it comes to intercourse, shower sex does come with it’s own set of challenges. You’ll probably want to begin with rear entry positions for safety’s sake, if for nothing else. Start “up against the wall.” She’ll make like she’s being frisked by the cops: standing up straight with her hands against the wall (or holding her suction cup hand grips) with her legs spread slightly. From here, then he can enter her from behind, holding her waist, caressing her breasts or providing manual–or shower head–stimulation to her clitoris.
10 Superman
You face each other standing up. She wraps her arms around his neck and her legs around his waist. If he widens his stance, she’ll be able to put the bottoms of her thighs on the tops of his. Now that he doesn’t have to support her entire weight with his upper body, he’ll be free to cradle her butt in his hands, helping to lift her up and down.
11 Wet Reverse Cowgirl
A good position if your shower is in your bathtub: the man sits down with his back against one end of the tub, his knees spread so that they’re touching the sides. The woman sits back onto his penis, facing away from him allowing her to control the depth and tempo of penetration.
12 Try Anal
One of the reasons that people are reticent to try anal sex is the potential for mess. In truth, that doesn’t happen very often. Still, it’s a widely held concern, particularly for anal newbies and for that reason, anal in the shower can be a great way to feel more comfortable and enjoy the experience. That said, with any anal play, it’s particularly important that you….
13 … Don’t Forget The Lube
When we think of lubricant, we think of silky, slippery wetness, so it follows that when you’re in the shower and there’s soapy water everywhere, bringing lube with you is like bringing sand to the beach. Wrong. “Water can actually dry things out and make shower sex downright uncomfortable,” explains Levine. If you’re using condoms silicone lube is a great idea.
14 Use The Rest of The Room
Truth be told, shower sex can be a little tricky given that success largely rests on your ability to pull off a range of notoriously difficult standing positions in a cramped space. If you can’t get the logistics of shower sex to work for you, don’t worry. You can think of the shower as a sexy warm-up and move on to intercourse using more sex-conducive surfaces and fixtures in the room. She could sit on the countertop while he enters her while standing up for steamy, intimate, face-to face sex. Or she could bend forward over the sink allowing him to enter her from behind.
