THERE are certain things we all believe about the opposite sex when it comes to what they want in the bedroom.
Men want sex all the time and when a woman says she has a headache she’s just not that into it.But it turns out some of the things we believe about men when it comes to getting down and dirty are just plain wrong.Sex expert Tracey Cox has revealed the seven myths about men and sex – and some of them may surprise you.
1. Men are obsessed with porn
You may think that all men want is to watch dirty videos.And that some may replace their sex life with porn, but that’s not true.Tracey said: “Most men watch porn. But most men enjoy porn without binging on it and enjoy sex with their partners.”Most don’t replace one with the other.”Watching porn doesn’t mean he’s more likely to cheat either.”In fact, if he has a higher sex drive than you and he’s watching porn, chances are he’s probably not cheating.”
2. If he enjoys you touching his bum then he must be gay
Another myth, said Tracey.Maybe it just feels good.”There are certain bits on human bodies that feel good sexually if they’re touched in the right way. We’re hot-wired that way,” explained Tracey.”If you couldn’t see and didn’t know who was touching you, you could be turned on by anyone.”And I mean anyone.”While our brains most certainly contribute to what turns us on, there’s a hell of a lot of anatomy at play also.”The term ‘erogenous zone’ refers to places in our body that are packed with nerve endings so have heightened sensitivity.”The anus is one of them. Stimulate it effectively and he will feel pleasure – simple as that.”If he enjoys anal simulation, it’s because it feels good and he’s comfortable enough in his sexuality not to be hung up on the ‘this must mean I’m gay’ myth.
“Anal stimulation alone does not make him gay. Continually wanting to and having sex with other men is what makes him gay (or bi).”
3. They want sex all the time
Some men have a high sex drive, but then some women do too.It all comes down to personal preference.Tracey said: “Some men do. Some women do as well.”Some men also want to watch sport all the time. Some don’t.”Some men want to sleep all the time. Some don’t. I think you get my drift.”There is continual and constant research on male versus female sex drives that turns up interesting and complex results.”The implications are there are many factors at play, when predicting someone’s sex drive, not just gender.”The standard sex myth that says ‘men want sex, women want love’ is passé and hopelessly out of date.”
4. If he can’t get it up he doesn’t fancy you
Not being able to get an erection is extremely distressing for a man.And it often has nothing to do with his desire for, or attraction to you.”Plenty of things stop him getting hard – too much alcohol, not feeling well, stress, performance anxiety, some medication, the need for more or different stimulation – and the list goes on,” said Tracey.”Contrary to popular belief, his penis isn’t operated by a mechanical lever that moves to ‘up’ whenever he sees a hot woman.”OK, well there might be something in that theory for the average 17-year-old but once grown-up life steps in, with all its pressures and stress, that soon disappears.”
5. Men don’t want just one partner
There is a myth that women are naturally monogamous but men aren’t.But when it comes to relationships, men and women are wired the same.Tracey said: “No doubt Donald Trump believes it but most (sane) men gave up on the ‘sorry I cheated honey but I’m programmed to do it’ argument eons ago.”Women are still more socialised to restrict themselves to one partner but figures for the number of women having affairs continues to rise.”We’re not animals – we have brains and the ability to reason.
6. Men need an erection to enjoy sex
It certainly helps when it comes to intercourse.But an erection isn’t needed for a man to be enjoying himself.”Psychologically, most men would probably prefer to have an erection during any sort of sexual activity even if penetrative sex isn’t on the agenda,” Tracey said.”Why? Because both sexes have been brainwashed to think desire equals a hard penis. It doesn’t.”Arousal happens in the brain; he could be massively turned on giving you oral but still not be hard by time you’ve had an orgasm.”Turning you on is a huge erotic kick – your reaction is about to star in his next masturbatory session.”
7. They can control how long they last in bed
While most men, and some women, probably with this were true the fact is it’s a myth.Men can’t help how long they last when they are stimulated.Tracey said: “While there are a lot of things that can help men hold off orgasm and ejaculation, it’s also down to genetics.”The size of his penis, how long his dad lasted (and his dad) – all this is completely out of his control.”By all means try out all the tried-and-tested methods but after that, let it go and work around it if he doesn’t last long.”Tracey also has her own range of sex toys that could spice up your relationship, or just be used for your own entertainment.
Source: thesun
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