Lack of self-confidence is one of the most important things which influences our image, our level of satisfaction with our lives, and our emotional stability. But it’s safe to say that pretty much everyone sometimes feels shy. And you would probably be amazed by the number of people who are trying to fight their shyness.
We decided to share 9 typical signs of emotionally unstable people. These signs are often based on shyness.
Desire to be popular
Many people want to be popular. But everything depends on how much someone wants it. If you have a real friend or a group of friends, you are not supposed to feel bad about someone being more popular than you. You should feel good.
But we live in the 21st century when the internet is very important. That’s why many people want to be popular online. And if you’re ready to do anything just to get more likes or views, you should try to understand what drives you, and maybe you should even see a therapist or specialist to help you determine the root cause of your desire to be popular.
Doubts about their appearance
You’ll be surprised but even the most attractive people often have doubts about their appearance. And this is normal. You can’t always be 100% sure that you look perfect all the time. We all have bad days and bad moods and there are many other factors that can influence the way you look.
Try to find the advantages in your appearance and highlight them. This will make you feel more confident.
Caring about someone else’s opinion
If you are constantly bothered by wondering what other people will think about what you do or what you say, then you can relax. The thing is, many people think about the same things. Everyone is scared of a negative reaction to their words and actions. People aren’t generally all that worried about your appearance and your behavior.
Try asking your colleagues what you wore 2 days ago. We are pretty sure that most of them won’t be able to answer. It’s OK to stop worrying about these things and keep living that way you want.
Reaction to refusal
Nobody likes to be refused. But there are often situations when we feel that someone refuses our ideas on purpose even when the person or people had no intention of offending us. Hearing a negative reaction to your ideas or proposals can really hurt your self-esteem, especially if you’re already struggling with building your confidence.
But think about the fact that other people are worried about this too. And sometimes you can be the person to refuse someone else’s ideas. Try to understand how other people feel in these situations and you’ll understand that you are not alone.
High expections
It’s great when a person expects a lot from themselves and achieves their goal. They feel strong and proud. This makes them keep on going and reach new goals.
But this doesn’t happen in the blink of an eye. Success is the result of a long and tiring process, so don’t hope for a quick result. Otherwise, you will fail and be disappointed.
Don’t expect yourself or other people to do the impossible and never quit something that you started.
Jealousy
Many people believe that others live much happier lives based on what they see online. But the truth is that the photos that are posted online aren’t enough to show others exactly what someone’s life is like. Feeling dissatisfied with life and with oneself is quite a common phenomenon and it’s something that even the “happiest” people sometimes struggle with. Exceptionally happy photos on Instagram are specifically chosen to show the best aspects of someone’s life.
If you think about it, you’ll notice that there are a lot of people around you who have the exact same problems. And someone probably thinks your life is perfect.
Devaluation
One more problem is that some people are sure that others can’t understand them. They think that nobody can feel the same things.
We all think that our own problems are more important than those of someone else. But it doesn’t mean that we should ignore the people who really want to support us.
Needing the opinions of others
If it takes you a very long time to make a decision, it means that you are very insecure. Probably, in such situations, you often ask for the opinion of the people who are important to you.
If someone asks for your opinion, try not to impose your point of view on them, but help them understand what they really want.
Trying to own a close person
If you think that close people are supposed to love you no matter what and should be ready to come and help you at any time you need them, then be careful because this road will get you nowhere. Every person has their own desires and they may be different from yours. And this is perfectly normal because they are people — they are not your servants.
So, the next time someone refuses to help and explains why they cannot help you, try doing something yourself instead of taking offense.
Confidence = emotional balance
This is for sure: the lack of self-confidence can be noticed in even the smallest things. And our life is nothing but a compilation of small things. So, maybe you should try and change something about yourself to find peace.
